School Avoidance
At Scoil Aodán Naofa, we want every child to feel happy, safe and supported in school. We know that for some children, attending school can sometimes feel overwhelming.
If your child is finding it difficult to come to school, please know that you are not alone. We are here to listen, understand and work together to find a way forward.
When Going to School Feels Difficult
Some children experience significant worry, anxiety or emotional distress about attending school. This is sometimes called Emotionally Based School Avoidance (EBSA).
School avoidance is not simply a child being unwilling to attend. There may be genuine emotional difficulties making school attendance challenging.
Every child’s experience is different. Difficulties may be connected to friendships, learning, separation from parents, sensory experiences, changes in routine or worries about school. Sometimes the reasons are not immediately clear.
Our message to parents: If school attendance is becoming a struggle, please contact us early. We would much rather work together before difficulties become more established.
Recognising the Signs
Children do not always have the words to explain why school feels difficult. Sometimes their worries show themselves in other ways.
Physical Complaints
Frequent tummy aches, headaches, feeling sick or other physical complaints, particularly before school.
Emotional Distress
Tears, anxiety, anger, panic or becoming very upset when it is time to leave for school.
Changes in Behaviour
Difficulty sleeping, increased clinginess, withdrawal or changes in mood and confidence.
Attendance Difficulties
Frequent lateness, difficulty entering the school building, repeated absences or increasing reluctance to attend.
These signs do not necessarily mean a child is experiencing school avoidance, but they may indicate that some additional support is needed.
How We Can Help
We recognise that school avoidance can be distressing for both children and their families. Our aim is to work in partnership with parents to understand what is making school difficult and identify appropriate supports.
Depending on the child’s individual needs, possible supports may include:
Listening and Understanding
Taking time to listen to the child and their parents, and exploring what may be contributing to their difficulties.
A Familiar Adult
Identifying a trusted member of staff who can help the child feel supported and connected to school.
Practical Adjustments
Considering changes to routines, transitions or aspects of the school day that may help reduce distress.
An Individual Support Plan
Where appropriate, agreeing manageable steps towards improved attendance and reviewing progress together.
We may also seek advice from relevant support services, where appropriate and in consultation with parents.
What Can Parents Do?
There are some practical ways parents can support a child who is finding school attendance difficult.
Listen Without Judgement
Encourage your child to talk about their worries. Acknowledge their feelings and reassure them that you want to help.
Keep Routines Predictable
Consistent bedtimes, morning routines and preparation for the school day can help children feel more secure.
Stay Connected with School
Share any concerns or changes you notice at home. Working together helps us build a clearer picture of your child’s needs.
Celebrate Small Steps
Recognise your child’s efforts and progress. For some children, even small steps towards attending school can be significant achievements.
Regular school attendance is important for children’s learning, friendships and wellbeing. Where attendance is difficult, we encourage families to work with us towards a positive and sustainable return to school.
Helpful Resources for Parents
The following Irish resources offer further information and practical guidance for families experiencing school attendance difficulties.
NEPS – Advice for Parents
The National Educational Psychological Service provides guidance for parents of primary school children who are reluctant to attend school.
View NEPS Parent GuidanceWexford CYPSC – School Avoidance
A comprehensive Irish resource pack containing practical advice, information for parents and strategies for supporting children experiencing emotionally based school avoidance.
View EBSA Resource PackDepartment of Education
Information about the importance of school attendance, along with resources and advice for parents and schools.
School Attendance ResourcesNEPS – Guidance for Schools
Information about how primary schools can respond to reluctant attendance and school avoidance, including approaches to planning and supporting children.
View NEPS ResourcesWe’re Here to Help
Every child deserves to feel that they belong in school.
If your child is experiencing difficulties with school attendance, please don’t hesitate to contact us. We want to work with you to understand your child’s needs, build their confidence and help them feel comfortable and connected at school.
Let’s work together. You can contact the school office by emailing carnewns@gmail.com or speak with your child’s class teacher.